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A hair revelation – the humble paddlebrush!

I’m not sure whether my arms aren’t long enough (!!) but I’ve never been able to master a blowdry. I get all of a tangle, and I can’t reach the back of my head, and the fact that I’m looking at the reflection of my limbs as opposed to the reality of where they are confuses me (yes I know I’m supposed to be a grown adult).

I’m also not very patient and, in truth, can’t be bothered with the length of time it would take to do after each wash.

As a result, straighteners are my friend. It means that I can just rough dry my hair on full heat as quickly as possible, embracing all it’s glorious frizziness, and then make it look like it’s not a pile of twigs I’ve attached to my head through the wonder of GHDs.

The only exception to this is when I’m on holiday, because it’s warm enough for my hair to dry quickly which creates rather lovely if wild and tempestuous wavy curls. The kind that work when you’re strolling round the beach wearing drapey dresses and sandals, but don’t work in real life in an office in the middle of an industrial estate.

So, how did this paddlebrush hair revelation come about? Honestly, it was as a result of me not being very great at being a girl. Again. I couldn’t find my own hairbrush. So I used the husband’s instead.

At this juncture I should point out that the husband is better at girls stuff than I am. Not wearing a dress and heels, or anything like that. But looking after himself and his appearance. He has a regular skin routine. He uses intensive conditioner and hair products. The background to that is that he has beautiful long surfy wavy blonde hair which is very thick and was getting tangled after washing, so his hairdresser suggested he buy a paddlebrush (oh yes, that’s another thing he’s better than me at – he goes to the hairdresser. I don’t). She said it would be kinder to his hair than combing when wet, and the padded bristle base would remove pressure on his head.

So, back to me using it. As I said, I couldn’t find my own so thought I’d make do with his. And the result was smooth hair that only needed straightening a little bit. I assumed it was just a fluke, so tried it a couple more times. The result was the same. Straight and smooth hair with a bit of oomph and bounce.

Unstraightened hair

I now very very rarely straighten my hair. In fact the husband uses the straighteners more than I do (surprise!) I haven’t adopted any technique, or spent any time drying in any particular way. I do exactly the same as previously; point the hairdryer and brush through.

Pretty chuffed tbh!

To finish, at risk of making the husband sound like a whimsical flaxen haired book character, he’s 6’2″, broad shouldered, with muscly arms and 2 full sleeve tattoos. It just so happens that he takes care of himself like a girl. And there’s nothing at all wrong with that.

Thanks, as always, for reading! x


5 things about 2015

Firstly, Happy New Year! Hope you had a good one welcoming it in whatever way you chose.

I meant to post this yesterday but got distracted by procrastinating doing…er…nothing…so although it’s now 2016 and technically I should be looking forward and not backwards, well, tough!

Goodbye 2015

So I woke up yesterday morning wondering how come I was in bed (I got very very drunk on New Years Eve Eve) and whether I was in trouble with the husband for being a pissed up handful (I wasn’t) and between the drunken confusion and not being able to sleep because my tongue was stuck to the roof of my mouth, I spent a few minutes thinking back about the year and the things that defined it.

So, here they are!

  1. Family. I’m very lucky to be very close to both of my parents. They divorced when I was 21 and I’ve been through bad times with both of them, but we came through the other side. They’re always there for me and, because I’m an only child, they have no-one to compare me to so they think I’m great (kinda kidding here). And, you know, family is so important. My mother-in-law is an amazing woman and I know that when we’re in her company we’ll always have fun. My extended family are fun and close knit and there are times in the past when I haven’t made the most of them. Time is limited and precious and I don’t want to regret not making the most of my folks so in 2015 I consciously spent more time with them, and will continue to do so this year.
  2. My job. I’ll never be defined by my career because I’m strictly of the mindset “work to live” and always have been. But this year I got made redundant (which is cool because I was semi-looking around anyway) and I now work for a company that makes a difference to people’s lives. The ethos is very different to my previous role and I never want to go back to that corporate money making bullshit I was in before; where lies and bad morals are acceptable just to make a buck for the fat cat owners. Plus I get that warm fuzzy feeling hearing first hand from people who’s lives are literally changed. It’s good.
  3. This blog. I started this blog on the day I got made redundant; a knee jerk reaction to change and the thought that I might have a lot of time on my hands! And it’s been great! I wanted to start a blog for a really long time and never got round to it, and I wish I’d done it years ago. I love the writing process, I love the interaction with other people, I love having an outlet that’s mine. Long may it continue.
  4. My hair! Screw the deep and meaningful stuff, my hair has been a pain in the ass for the past year. Totes my own fault for cutting it off, but I needed to do it and scratch an itch and have now learnt my lesson. It’s long all the way from now on! (well, when it finally gets there).
  5. Not seeing friends. Back to the serious stuff. The husband and I totally overcommitted last year, in between holidays, and festivals and weekends away, and other plans. Great as it sounds, we didn’t nurture the core stuff. Friends we haven’t seen enough of. Birthdays missed. Presents not exchanged. Spending 3 weekends in a row in different hotels in different parts of the country because of gigs and weddings and trips. Something to change this year.

So, a retrospective, an introspective, and a goodbye to last year.

How was yours?

Thanks, as always, for reading! x


Disappointment – bad for the soul, good for the bank balance

I’ve had 3 major disappointments with online orders recently. These are things that I’ve been hankering after for ages (in some cases, years).

The timing is probably good, because between Christmas shopping and spending money on our home I’m not exactly in the best financial place. But you know when you really really want something to be great? And your mind has already run away with you about how your life is going to be better as a result? That!

The first thing is this grey fur coat.

Dorothy Oerkins grey fur coat

Now I know I said I wasn’t in the market for a new fur coat. But I was lying. I’ve been hankering after a grey one for ages; in fact this very coat is the one that prompted me to put that post together, although by the time I got round to it the grey had disappeared (hence me featuring the cream). But then it came back online; in the Dorothy Perkins half price Black Friday sale (is it just me, or do they always have discount offers on?) It was set to be my find of the season at less than £30.

Alas, it made me look like the honey monster. The shape made my posture look wrong; all round shouldered and weird, plus it was the kind of hairy fur that moults and gets everywhere.


Second fail was this coat from New Look. Be still my inner Penny Lane (read my review of Almost Famous here). I’ve wanted a suede and shaggy fur coat like this in forever. OK, this is faux suede, but that’s ok, I’m not a fabric snob.

New Look 70s suede coat

Unfortunately it didn’t even resemble faux suede. It was more like orange cardboard. And the shaggy fur looked like it had been left to dry after being submerged in a muddy puddle. Penny Lane was not to be.

Finally, on a different tip, a hairstyler which I was sure would revolutionise my barnet (I haven’t moaned about it for a while!) I found the UK version of the one handed blowdryer from Revlon, on Amazon, and kindly told asked the husband if he would buy it for me if it was any good.

Revlon blow dryerRevlon blowdryer

Unfortunately it wasn’t. It took ages to dry and it was awkward to get right to the roots. I gave up in the and finished off with my hairdryer and straighteners. Such a shame as I was mega excited about that.

Have you had any shopping disappointments recently?

Thanks, as always, for reading! x


Two hair stylers I *need* in my life

I’m a marketing person’s dream when it comes to hair stylers – I totally believe the hype. If you read this blog regularly then you’ll have seen my moans and groans about my barnet (which has now changed colour again, BTW, I’m back to brown). I want fabulous hair but in truth I don’t have the energy or inclination to really work for it.

Hairstyle image

(image via pinterest)

I wash, dry (and by dry I mean aim the hairdryer at it, not blowdry, I’m not dexterous or patient enough for that, so I go for the quicker “dry but frizzy” effect) and straighten. Occasionally I muss it up with some product, or curl it (I’ve learnt how to use my straighteners for curling – this is revolutionary stuff). I’ll wear headscarfs, quiff the front with grips or wear a messy bun. I’m not uncaring with my hair – it doesn’t just hang there. But I’m always looking for something else as well.

I’ve tried (and owned) most hair stylers going over the years – from the Braun cordless gas curling tong and hotbrush (remember those?!) to heated rollers, to electric tongs, wide barrel tongs, curling wand, Babyliss Curl Secret. The texture of my hair seems to have changed recently and, annoyingly, it doesn’t hold a curl very well anymore.

And anyways, I don’t always want a curl. Sometimes I just want bounce.

I digress.

I spotted this Revlon Pro Collection One Step Hair Dryer and Styler recently on Target viaGoogle – it’s a one handed blowdry! The problem I have with blow drying is that I can’t coordinate the hairdryer in one hand and hairbrush in the other (*rollseyes* I know) but I do love the look of blowdried hair – bouncy and voluminous without being too straight. This would be perfect for me. All the reviews say it’s fantastic too.

The only trouble is that I can’t find this available from a UK seller yet, and by the time you add on shipping and taxes from the States, it’s pretty much doubled in price.

I’ll definitely look into getting one of these when it hits UK shores though, hopefully not too long (and maybe in time for Christmas so I can get it as a gift from someone!)

The other one is this Beautiful Star Electric Straightening Brush I saw featured on the lovely Confetti and Curves blog (check it out, Karen’s lovely and has some fab beauty content). An alternative to traditional straighteners it gives a more natural straight look. But again, alas, I can’t find this online for UK!


Anyway, some food for thought and definitely two products to look out for in the coming months.

Are you a dabhand with hair stylers?

Thanks, as always, for reading! x


Get to Know Me

I saw this post on T is for Tina’s blog (check it out, it’s a lot of fun!), and being as I love talking about myself (just kidding…or am I?) I thought I’d have a go! After all, Tina invited anyone to get involved, and I’m doing the same to anyone who’s reading.

Get to know me

1. Is your hair naturally curly or straight?
It used to be straight when I was a kid, then I started having it permed (damn you early 90s) and since then it’s grown back curly. But it doesn’t dry well, it takes so long because it’s thick that it just ends up as frizz. When I’m on holiday and it dries quickly I often have it curly (except not any more because I cut it all off, doh).

2. Do you dye it yourself or go to a salon?
Anyone who’s read my blog in the past will know I’d rather stick forks in my eyes than go to the hairdresser. Plus I think it’s too expensive. Home-jobby all the way. (I did have it highlighted at a salon once and got yellow stripes, further strengthening my hairdresser fear)

3. Do you wear the same style everyday, or do you change it?
This year has been very transitional for me as I changed jobs and went from a corporate office to a very laid back smaller company with a casual dress code. So sometimes it’s jeans and a t-shirt, sometimes a shift dress and hi-tops (sport luxe darlings). In winter there’ll be lots of dresses with tights and boots. Outside of work I wear a lot hats. One at a time, obvs.

4. Do you do your own mani/pedi or go to a salon?
I’m very tight with spending money on other people doing stuff for me (I’d rather buy clothes) so I do it myself. Although it’s less of a mani/pedi and more slap some nail varnish on while I’m waiting for a taxi.

5. How often do you change your nail polish?
This is one of my bad beauty habits. I pick and chip it off or paint over it. It’s rare I properly remove polish. And then I just go bare nailed for a while. So there’s no set routine.

6. Do you polish your toes in the winter or just the summer?
Always have painted toenails. Always. They’re usually red. Currently orange. I do like to match them to my fingernails (I know that’s quite old school) but only if they’re on show, so mainly summertime.

7. How long does it take for you to put on makeup?
My morning routine is mega quick – maybe 5 minutes? I spend a bit longer if I’m going out, as I’ll apply darker eye shadow and more liner. Then the extra time is spent wiping the smudges and cursing.

8. What do you do first? Face or eyes?
Face. It just seems the natural order of things?

9. Do you collect makeup or just buy what you need when you need it?
I buy what I need when I need it but also what I want when I want it and then I won’t always use it immediately which is why I have about 20 unused nail varnishes, oops! And I’ve always got multiple lipsticks on the go.

10. How often do you wear false eyelashes?
Never. I’d like to. But I find them so fiddly. I recently (well, about 4 months ago) bought an applicator thingy so I should really try again. If I do I’ll blog about it.

11. Do you do a full face of makeup everyday?
I never really have what I call a full face of make up. Like I don’t use powder and contour and highlighter and all that stuff. My routine is easy – BB cream base, pencil my eyebrows, shadow, liner and mascara and a bit of cream blush.

12. Do you wear makeup when you’re home alone or with family?
If I’m at home at weekends with no plans I go completely bare faced.

13. Will you leave the house without makeup?
Yes. I’ll go out with no make up; not “out” as in an occasion but I’ll go to the shops.

14. How many high-end products do you have?
None, I don’t see the point. I’m not a make up lover (I mean I love it, but I don’t love it love it) I’d rather spend my money on other stuff.

15. Do you plan your OOTD every night or decide when you’re getting dressed?
I’m not a planner. Which makes me late.

16. How often do you change your handbag?
Depends on my outfit and what colour shoes I’m wearing. Oh, and the season. I have some bags that I only use outside of work.

17. What time do you wake up and go to sleep?
I’ve never been a morning person and at weekends I used to sleep in late, but that seems to have changed recently. In the week I get up between 7.20 and 7.30 (closer to 7.30, or sometimes 7.40!) and go to bed about 11-ish. At weekends it depends on my plans and whereabouts (and, if I’m honest, amount of wine drunk).

18. How often or when do you workout?
No routine – I go through phases where I’m all like “yeah, this is it, I’m going to get fit and be in the best shape of my life” then other times I think stuff it. I’ve just rejoined the gym to try and lose weight for my holiday. Which is why I was at home eating pizza on Tuesday night!

19. Left handed or right handed?
Right handed.

20. How tall are you?
5.6. Up to 5.11 in heels! (benefits of having a tall husband, it was a pre-requisite!)

21. Do you speak any foreign languages?
Nope. I did well at languages at school, but never progressed past GCSE. I’d love to speak Spanish.

22. How many pets do you have?
None! Never have (unless you count the pre-requisite childhood goldfish). I’m not responsible enough.

23. How often are you on WordPress?
Most days, slightly less so at weekends.

24. Do you read comments posted on blogs?
On my blog? Of course! (and reply). On other blogs? Sometimes. If I’m being nosy and the topic is of interest to me.

25. Do you keep a list of products to try as you see other posts?
Yes. And I’ve found some nice bits and pieces that way too.

26. How did you come up with your blog name?
I knew that there was no way I could just blog about one thing, so it was always going to be a bit of this, that and the other, and I twisted “that” to “tatt” because I have tattoos.

27. What kind of camera do you use for your photographs?
Just my phone (Samsung Galaxy A5). I don’t have the patience for anything more than point and click.

28. How often do you clean your house?
Not enough (depending on your definition of enough). There’s nicer things to do in life.

29. What’s your favorite colour?
I don’t have one. I find it a strange concept. It depends what it’s for. I mean, I quite like burgundy, but if my vegetables were that colour I’d be upset, y’know?

30. Do you swear?
Do I fu…

31. What are you doing with the rest of your day?
What I’m paid for! (as in my actual job, I’m not positioning myself out there for offers)

If you do complete this nosy survey then be sure to let me know in the comments with a link, so I can check out your answers!


My journey to red (ish) hair

So yesterday I declared that I am past hating my hair. It’s finally getting to a stage where I think we’ve turned a metaphorical corner, and I no longer cringe in the mirror and want to pull it out of my head.


It’s been slow going but colouring it has definitely helped.

I first pondered going red a couple of months back, in an effort to get through the god awful in between stage of dull-boring-bobbed-notgrowingfastenough hair (which is entirely my own fault as I decided to cut it all off last October). I thought it would be fairly easy. I’ve been there before. OK, so I can’t get as red as I’d like (because I’m not willing to too lazy to bleach it; the upkeep sounds too much hassle) but by using an uber-bright Schwarzkopf dye I can at least get some semblance of red colour, albeit dark.

Me, around 4 years ago


As of last summer I’d been dying my hair very dark brown for a while, but the roots were fading fairly quickly whereas the ends were saturated with colour and looked black. As I wanted my hair very dark, it seemed to make sense to proceed to a black dye. I’ve been stung by this before, about 13 years where I had to grow it out (ugh) so I only ever used semi-permanent. Because, by default, it’s not permanent, right?


I stripped it using a Colour B4 application (which I have used successfully on previous occasions).

Colour B4

But the semi permanent seems to have worked quite literally. But only the roots were truly stripped. The other half…wasn’t. The ends seemed to have retained their darkness, although this wasn’t apparent at first. Only when I put the red colour on did the roots go dark red and the ends black. The red wasn’t bleaching out the remnants of the black.

I had reverse ombre hair.

Blaming myself for not applying a “second coat” of stripper as I had first intended, I gave my poor barnet a break for a couple of weeks (during which time I shampooed religiously with clarifying shampoo to remove any build up) before stripping it again. Twice. If you’ve ever used a colour stripper then you’ll be familiar with the time consuming, laborious and stinky process. If you haven’t – it’s a very time consuming, laborious and stinky process. It took me a whole afternoon of application, sitting with my head wrapped in a carrier bag to retain heat, rinsing, boosting, rinsing, drying and then doing the whole bloody thing again.

I’ve had more interesting Saturdays.

The good news was that this time I was 100% sure all the black was gone. I had pictorial evidence. Look! Brown! (with a hint of ginger!)

Stripped hair

Next step was to try red again.

Schwarzkopf XXL red hair dye

Schwarzkopf hair dye

Well blow me if the previously black section of my hair didn’t go dark again! Admittedly it was dark red this time, very dark red. But I was still two tone.

I sought assistance and advice from the husband – a man who has no hesitation in laughing at me when I’ve cocked up.

And he said it looked OK!


Almost deliberate.

And so I stuck with it.

I’ve coloured it a few more times since then and each time the ends are getting slightly redder (or I’m kidding myself). Obviously, as it’s growing, I have more “naked” hair coming through which picks up the red. So I’m not going to redye it black (toys out of the pram reaction number one) or cut it all off again (toys out out of the pram reaction number two).

I’ve come up with three conclusions following this experience. You may think that one of them would be to go to a hairdresser in future. It’s not (I still can’t get over my fear of the hairdresser).

No, my three conclusions are:

  • Don’t use black dye – even semi permanent. EVER
  • If you’re not sure whether something has worked, it’s probably best to make absolutely sure before continuing with the next course of action
  • I have far more patience and sense of humour with my hair than I ever thought possible

I can categorically guarantee that I have only taken this in good humour because it was at my own hands and not particularly expensive. If this had happened via the hands of a hairdresser and cost me oodles of pounds (which of course, technically, it wouldn’t because they’re professionals), I’d have been apoplectic with rage. Even the fact that when I wear it up in a messy bun (because it’s now long enough to do that, hurrah!) I look like I’m wearing a fake clip on because of the colour difference is just about ok.

Here’s where I am right now. It looks different in different lights, sometimes very red, sometimes not (and absolutely nothing like the box!)

Me dark red hair

It might not be quite a crowning glory. But I no longer want to walk round with my head in an opaque bucket to hide it away. So that will do for now.


Hair’s some advice to my future self

I’m finally getting to a stage where I no longer hate my hair.

So, in a bid to dissuade myself from ever suffering such trauma again, I’m immortalising my experiences, so next time I pick up the scissors I can revisit the raw drama and step away from the snip…


“Dear me,

Don’t cut your hair above shoulder length again. Hell, don’t even go to shoulder length! It’s a rotten pain to grow through an inbetweeny length, it looks dweeby, it ages you (more and more important as time goes on, you need all the help you can get!) and you’ll regret it.

Remember Nice, where it was too short to wear in a ponytail and did that horrible flicky thing.Me in Nice 2

Look at this photo, when you’re finally starting to like it again, and remember the pain it took to get here.


Watch this video, and all the pretty things you can do with long hair, and step away from the scissors.

And for God’s sake DO NOT cut a bloody fringe. Nothing good can come of that!

You’re very welcome.

Love from you, 2015″


Hard to bear hair

My hair is the current bane of my life (I know, first world problems). Seriously though, it’s driving me to distraction. I’m so pre-occupied with it that it’s actually impacting on other stuff. Like on Saturday night when it wouldn’t go right no matter how much I messed with it, I felt like crapola when I went out. On Monday I got caught in the rain and, because it’s naturally curly but still short-ish, I ended up looking like one of the Golden Girls for the rest of my workday. When I got home my worst fears were concerned, with the reaction being “Good god, what have you done?!” Yeah, thanks.

It’s a funny length, a funny shape, a funny texture (not strictly true I suppose, only when damp) and I’m fed up of the colour. I feel like it’s making me look old and dragging my face down. It might also be responsible for unrest in the Middle East and rainforest destruction. That’s how bad I feel about it.

When I started deliberating about what to do lengthwise I was still unsure. Now I’ve made my mind up that I’m growing it, I want it long again. Now. Unfortunately, nature being what it is, I’m going to have to show some patience (not one of my strongest traits) and work with what I’ve got.

Last time I was growing my hair out was around 11 years ago, and I bought clip in hair extensions which I had matched to my colour at the time. They helped bridge the gap between long and short and I don’t remember it ever being this painful (I could be looking back through rose tinted glasses though).

This is the current colour and length.


The plan that was forming to change the colour was scuppered by the ineffectiveness of the colour remover I used two weeks ago. That isn’t to say the product was ineffective (I know it isn’t, as I’ve used it before), rather that my hair didn’t respond as I wanted it to (much stamping of feet). I know that black dye is notoriously difficult to strip, which is why I’ve only been using semi permanent colours, but with some porosity I assume that the colour might have soaked in (technical hairdresser term). I think I expected too much based on previous stripping. Last time, when I got rid of the red, my hair was left a light brown colour. But that would be because the red dye I’d been using had also bleached it over time as well. This time the removal was much more subtle. I’d say that the black has pretty much gone. But it’s still very dark brown (with a few springy sprouty greys – damn you aging hair follicles!)

So, what’s next? .

I’m helping it to grow with hair vitamins (whether these actually work, or are just a marketing ploy to placate desperados like me I don’t know).


I’m cleansing it to within an inch of it’s life with clarifying shampoo – removing as much build up as I can…


…before I strip it again (it’s safe to do so, you can use up to 3 of these treatments each time without damaging you hair).


And then, regardless of what happens, even if it’s still dark, I’m going to stick a colour on it. Because even non bleach colours will lighten hair a little bit.

My dilemma is this:

Do I go for a lighter (than my current) brown with a view to heading towards a more summery look? (which will inevitably end up with messy roots and probably a hideous shade of orange). Or have I bought this dye because I’m seduced by the pretty girl on the front with the gorgeous eyes and long lustrous locks? (and also because it says age defy, and I’m all for that!)


Or do I go for red for a kick in the ass, brighten my look, shock to the system? (It won’t go this red, ever, but I need something very bright to show up on/over the brown).


I won’t get the immediate result with either of them from just one application, I know. With the red, especially, it needs to build up, so I’d probably dye it once a week at first, with careful conditioning and maintenance to avoid damage.

Because, the other thing is that it’s only 3 weeks until Download Festival, and naturally I want to look my best because there will be SO MANY PHOTOS that will circulate ALL YEAR LONG until the next one. So I need to act quickly.

No pressure then. What could possibly go wrong…?


Flashback Friday – the hair edition

I had a dream last night that I decided to have some last minute highlights prior to going to a wedding. The hairdresser asked how much I wanted cut off my hair and I insisted on just the slightest of trims. But she cut my shortest layer to around 1 inch all over the top of my head.

Thank god it was just a dream!

My hair has been on my mind (figuratively as well as literally) for the past few days. Following my brain meanderings a couple of weeks ago, I’m kind of at the “let it grow” stage; probably influenced by a quick straw poll of friends and family (weak minded, easily influenced, indecisive wench that I am) where the general consensus was it looks better long. Swines. Of course I could buck the trend. But I’m not really sure myself. So I’m going to try a lob (snigger). Long bob, not anything rude.

Strangely, this morning, I’d been wondering how to inject some life into my barnet during this dull in between stage; concluding that dark red might be the way to go. Coincidentally I then exchanged some texts with my mobile hairdresser friend who I mentioned previously, who I found out reads my blog (“Hi Cookie!”) and, without prompting, she suggested going back to red.

I haven’t been red for around 3 years. Because my natural colour is pretty dark, I can’t go bright bright red without bleach (a step too far for an amateur hairdresser like me), but I reached a pleasing hue with regular dye. It’s a faff to keep up and white towels are a no no, and I ended up going back to dark/black as red lacked shine, but I’m craving a change.

So, here’s my Flashback Friday gallery. I may be harking back to some of the hair colours because I look so young. I’m very partial to the blond streaked front, but I was a decade younger then. It’s the face I’m craving, as much as the hair!

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FB_IMG_1429265578203 Red

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Obviously the much shorter length will make a difference this time around. So watch this space!


Tonsurephobia – fear of haircuts

Not quite the right terminology for my own circumstances. Mine is a fear of hairdressers. Seriously, I would rather go to the dentist and get work done than go to a hairdresser. One of my close friends is a mobile hairdresser and has offered to come to my home, be really patient, do exactly what I say. But no. No way!

The reasoning for this? I’ve had so many disappointments over the years.When I was 11, I had really long thick hair. But I wanted it curly. So I went on and on and on about it until my Mom gave in and I was allowed to get a perm. Because of the thick weightiness of my hair, the perm didn’t take properly so the hairdresser suggested we come back to the salon to have some layers cut in. And that was the start of the problem.

I never truly loved it after that, although I continued to get it permed and layered until I was 16. Then there was the time I got highlights that ended up a horrible yellow colour. And, most recently, when I asked for a sweeping side fringe and came out looking like a librarian. I cried all the way home.

The truth is, no-one knows my hair better than me. I know that cutting it when it’s wet is a mistake because of how it will spring up once dry. I know I have a cow-lick on the right hand side. And so now I cut it myself.

We’re not talking just a trim. Most recently I went from bra strap length to above shoulder in just three haircuts. I have gone from no fringe to full fringe. I have put layers through the length and the front. I’ve coloured it, stripped it and recoloured it. So I’m not afraid of haircuts. I like experimenting with my hair, I like it to look like I have a style. I don’t just leave it to grow and grow. I just take on the role of my own personal hairdresser.

The results? Well no-one has ever laughed at it or told me I should wear a hat. My husband always checks it over when I’m done and expresses incredularity that it’s straight and level. Even my hairdresser friend looked over my most recent short cut and couldn’t see any major flaws.

I started off last October going to just below shoulder length. My inspiration was Claudia Winkelman, but without the fringe.


Then I decided I would do a full Claudia, and go for a fringe. Mistake! Every time I cut a fringe I like it for about 3 days, before deciding that it’s too much like hard work (my fringe hair is too springy and wavy to behave how a fringe should). Meanwhile I went slightly shorter in the length.

And my fringe has now grown into face framing layers, and I have gone a bit shorter again in length. And I like it. I really do. BUT, I can’t help wonder whether I should grow it again? Everyone seems to be getting their long hair cut (most recently Mylene Klass and Cheryl Fernandez-Versini) and my husband actually asked me if I was doing it “to be trendy” (what a cheek! Then again he’s very vocal in his love of long hair, I think it’s a man thing). I’m at a cross roads now – it’s getting to the point where I either need to commit to this length and style and trim it again, or bite the bullet and grow it. I’m all set for keeping it short until I look at old pictures of myself with long hair and realise I loved it long (although it was more of a pain in the butt that it is now; made me too hot, took ages to dry). And also I can’t get it quite right. I’m struggling to achieve the wavy look that I really want, in spite of experimenting with tongs, mousse and curling with straighteners.

Here are some of my current hair-spiration pics.- the worry is separating the hair from the face. I’m never going to look like one of the Olsen twins, even if I shaved their hair off and stuck it on my very own head.

Olsen wavy bob

The colour is what makes this – you wouldn’t see that level of definition on my black hair

Wavy bob 5 Wavy bob 2

Slightly longer – again I think the colour is important (maybe I need to change my colour??!!)

Wavy bob Wavy bob 4

This is probably closest to my look

Wavy bob 3

And then I’d love to be able to do this, but plaiting your own hair is difficult.

Plaited bob

But then I miss this, especially now summer is coming. Accessories don’t seem to work as well on shorter hair.

Bandana 2  Feathers

Hairband 2 Hairband Long hair


To conclude – there is no conclusion. I’ve actually confused myself even more. Maybe I should stick with the length and experiment with colour. Stripping the black dye and going for a mid brown might be a place to start…